chutie

ok so here is my problem. i didnt get a proper baby shower with my first baby, it was just my mum and her friend buy me a gift and invite me over to lunch lol. i want a baby shower with this pregnancy but i have been told by friends and family that its rude and unfair to have a baby shower with a second baby and to expect gifts, they say they will come but there is no way they will throw me one cos they dont think its right. i dont see the problem, just abit pissed that i have to throw it for myself. i was thinking along the lines of a gift registry at target or maybe even just suggesting if they WANT to bring a gift, they bring nappies,wipes or bath care or vouchers to buy these things. is it too rude to throw my own baby shower and for a second baby, and to ask for specific things seeing as i already have most baby items?? i seriously dont see the problem.

itsjustme

a baby shower is for celebrating the life of a baby to come. so why should the first baby get one and not the rest, i'm sorry but i think it's selfish and rude (if i may be so blunt) that your family and friends have said this. every new life should be celebrated not just the first new life. also it's not rude to have your own shower but why should your family and friends be so rude not to throw one for you? and there are many gifts they can give, like my first year photo frame's, first tooth boxes, birth cert scroll's products for baby's bum and baths, baby's own teddy's, baby's own clothes!

here's a little thing i found on baby shower's Only One Baby Shower? | Articles | Pregnancy Today

goodluck hun, i hope you get a baby shower and it all works out for you xx

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chutie

thanks...lol maybe i just shouldnt invite my friends and family that feel that way..i agree, there are plenty of things to buy and you dont have to buy anything if you dont want to....im not doing it to be a charity case, im doing it to celebrate that after a long time coming im finally having another baby...i wanna celebrate this baby! why cant they understand grrrr

belb

Have a baby shower!

My sister in law is throwing me one, and this is our third. I didn't have one with our 2nd, but then we had to move interstate.

travricksmum

I think if you won't to have one then you should! If they don't like it then they don't have to come - simple. Every new baby deserves to be celebrated however we wish to do it!
I have never had a baby shower. My sister organized one for me for my first but I couldn't make it as he decided to come 3 weeks early and i was in hospital having him lol! I never even thought of having one for my second to be honest and no one else did either obviously lol!
I hope you have your baby shower and have a lovely time!

take2

depends why you are having the shower

if you want to throw a lil arvo tea then do so...there is no need for gifts!

people will get you a gift if they want to when bubs is born...just say you want to have a celebration but there is no need for gifts that way there is no one who can call you selfish

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LMV

This thread is really interesting.....

I DID have a small baby shower for my DD, but it was only 7 family members & two friends from work. We went to a cafe for lunch & I bought the cake & paid for the coffees to go with the cake.

I never even thought about a shower for this baby until a friend (who I was not in contact with when pregnant the 1st time) asked me if I would like HER to host a baby shower at her house! Since I have everything I need for this one (since it's also a baby girl), I said no. But, reading this thread got me thinking because my close friends NOW are not the same as when I had the first shower.

I don't think it is rude or selfish to want a shower for the 2nd baby...after all, this one will already be sharing some (if not all) of the first child's stuff; it's nice for the baby to have a 'party' in honour of it's imminent arrival.

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bj_angel_baby

I think you should have a baby shower. I had one for both of my bubs. My mum hosted the first one and a friend I wasn't talking to at the time of my first bub wanted to make it up to me and threw the 2nd one. I felt a little bad in myself for actually loving the fact I was having the 2nd one till I read this thread. My pregnancy with my daughter was very complicated and I was unable to enjoy it at all. I even spent 6 out of 7 days at the hospital on the week of my baby shower. And then she arrived 8 days later at 34 weeks. So being able to relax and enjoy myself the 2nd time around was great.

If you are worried about looking selfish, I agree and say that you don't want a gift. People who really want to give you something will ignore you and bring something anyway. Good Luck

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